Recommended Reading

Recommended Books for Marriage, Relationships, Divorce and Rebuilding

Calling In The One by Katherine Woodward Thomas

is a great book to set you up for having the relationship you are desiring. You can use this book to work on your self to clear past relationship baggage and to get clear on the relationship you are longing for.

Even if you are in a marriage or relationship I still recommend this resource to people so that they have an opportunity to do some house cleaning so to speak.

Relationship Strategies by John G. Kappas, Ph.D

gives all the details describing what I refer to as the Head and the Heart model.

In the book, the Heart person is referred to as the Physical or Phys and the Head person is referred to as the Emotional or Emo.

This resource gives you far more detail than the video (above) to help you understand yourself and your partner in your relationship or marriage.

Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg

gives the detail for his body of work referred commonly as NVC.

This is the model I use when coaching and counselling individuals or couples in their relationship. Authentic communication using this structure cuts through a lot of the crap that occurs in common communication between people..

First Steps by Christine Western

is a great resource when your relationship or marriage of is either over or close to being over. It gives practical grounded resources detailing all the considerations and options when you are looking to end a relationship.

When people have read the book and visited Christine’s website, some people take a good look at their relationships and start doing some work on it. Feel free to contact me……. to be sure to be sure your relationship is really over.

For others it is too late and this books helps with the separation process. Ideally people can keep it as much out of the courts as possible and work collaboratively for the best of everybody.

Spiritual Divorce by Debbie Ford

Could the end of your marriage be the first step toward reclaiming your personal power and joyfully living the life of your dreams? If the answer is yes, this book is for you. 

Divorce rocks the very foundation of our beings, leaving us feeling lonely, flawed, enraged, undesirable, hopeless, and empty. In Spiritual Divorce, New York Times bestselling author Debbie Ford reveals how this devastation can be transformed into a profoundly enlightening experience. This empowering guide shows how the collapse of a marriage is, at root, a spiritual wake-up call, an opportunity to liberate ourselves and reclaim our lives. The end of a relationship and  who ends it and is a damaging moment. Ford offers a clear program for turning ruin into renewal.

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

The revolutionary guide to show couples how to create an emotionally intelligent relationship – and keep it on track.

Straightforward in its approach, yet profound in its effect, the principles outlined in this book teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work.

Eight Dates

What are the signs of a thriving long term relationship? The Gottman Institute ‘Love Lab’ doctors reveal the golden rules of making love last.

What really makes a relationship work? How can we stay interested in our partner for ever? How can we be happier in our marriage?

5 Love Languages by Dr Gary Chapman

is a great starting place to answer the questions:

  • How do you know I love you?
  • How do I know I am loved?

Loving and feeling loved is one of our most important needs. I highly recommend that parents know and demonstrate their childrens love languages. This will help them feel loved and secure.

Don’t Be Nice Be Real by Kelly Bryson

is another great book that helps understand and use Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

The Prophet by Kahil Gibran

is a classic resource for you to contemplate each chapter. It has a wonderful philosophy and way for you to look at life.

On a personal note this book was my best companion when my marriage fell apart.

There are great chapters on Love, Marriage, and Children for starters.

Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas

is a great book and process for helping with cleaning up feelings and resentments when a marriage or relationship is over.

Conscious Uncoupling is:

  • A 5-Step process for how to end a romantic union in honorable, gracious and respectful ways;
  • A step-by-step road map for how to breakup in a way that does minimal damage to all involved;
  • A clear guide for how separating couples can create new, cooperative and life-affirming agreements and structures that set everyone up to win moving forward.

Click on the book image to see where you can order it from.

You can also get a free PDF download and audios by going to the home page of the site.

Rebuilding when your relationship ends by Bruce Fisher, EDD & Robert Alberti, PHD

If you are going through a painful breakup or divorce, you may feel like the life you once knew is crashing down around you. You need help to gather the pieces and “rebuild” yourself from the ground up.

Rebuilding features Bruce Fisher’s “divorce process rebuilding blocks,” a proven-effective, nineteen-step process for putting one’s life back together after divorce.

You can heal your Life

This New York Times bestseller has sold over 50 million copies worldwide, including over 200,000 copies in Australia.

Louise’s key message in this powerful work is- “If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed.”

Louise explains how limiting beliefs and ideas are often the cause of illness, and how you can change your thinking…and improve the quality of your life! Packed with powerful information – you’ll love this gem of a book!

How to do Work?

Now Dr LePera is ready to share her much-requested protocol with the world. In How to Do the Work, she offers both a manifesto for self-healing and an essential guide to creating a more vibrant, authentic, and joyful life. Drawing on the latest research from both scientific research and healing modalities, Dr LePera helps us recognise how adverse experiences and trauma in childhood live with us, keeping us stuck engaging in patterns of codependency, emotional immaturity, and trauma bonds. Unless addressed, these self-sabotaging behaviours can quickly become cyclical, leaving people feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, and unwell.

Recommended Books and Short Courses for Motherhood, Conscious Parenting, and Children

Self Care & Motherhood

The Motherhood Evolution by Suzi Lula

A new vision of motherhood, giving us permission to thrive, taking us from overwhelm and exhaustion to a life overflowing with joy, meaning and most of all, real connection with our children. Thriving mothers transform their own life, the lives of their children, and ultimately the world. Imagine being raised by parents who are at peace with themselves!

Self Care courses by Suzi Lula

Taking care of OURSELVES is THE GREATEST GIFT we can give our children and all those around us! SOULFUL SELF CARE ensures we live our most LUMINOUS LIFE!

Conscious Parenting

The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

Conscious parenting is about becoming mindful of your behaviour and engaging with your child as an individual.

Dr. Tsabary inspires parents to get back in touch with their emotions and shed the layers of baggage they have inherited during their own life and are unconsciously heaping on their children. As they become ‘conscious’ in their parenting, so parents can transform their relationship with their offspring and raise happy, well-adjusted children.

The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

FINALIST FOR THE BOOKS FOR A BETTER LIFE AWARD – NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

“Parents . . . you will be wowed and awed by [Dr. Shefali].” – Oprah Winfrey As seen on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday, a radically transformative plan that shows parents how to raise children to be their best, truest selves, from the New York Times bestselling author of The Conscious Parent.

What if…? What if I told you that you can put an end to all of your parenting struggles? That you can learn to parent without fear or anxiety? That you can end conflict with your children? That you can create close and connected relationships within your family?

Out of Control by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Every parent wants the golden key to raising well-behaved, academically gifted, successful, happy children. Embedded in the collective psyche is the notion that discipline is the cornerstone to achieving these goals. Out of Control offers a never-before-published perspective on why the entire premise of discipline is flawed. Dr. Shefali Tsabary reveals how discipline is a major cause of generations of dysfunction.

The author goes to the heart of the problems parents have with children, challenging society’s dependence on discipline, daring readers to let go of fear-based ideologies and replace them with an approach that draws parent and child together. 

Wisdom and Meditation Courses with Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Dr. Shefali is a world-renowned wisdom-teacher who teaches workshops and courses both online and in-person around the world.

Her online courses have helped hundreds of adults and families around the world. They cover topics like anger, anxiety, purpose, meaning, relationships and conscious health. In addition, she regularly teaches group-meditation classes virtually and in-person as well.

Childrens Books

Little Soul and the Sun by Neale Donald Walsch

The Little Soul and the Sun is a simple and powerful story that brings children a very profound truth: there is not absolute good or bad–that underneath all that happens in the world, all that we call “good” and all that we call “bad,” is love. Your child will discover a God that she or he can love, because God is love, as are all the Little Souls who are a part of God. And perhaps parents, too, will rediscover who they really are.

The Indigo Children by Jan Tober & Lee Carroll

This book is a must for the parents of unusually bright and active children. Indigo children are those who display a new and unusual set of psychological attributes and show a pattern of behaviour generally undocumented before.

In this groundbreaking book on the Indigo Child, international authors Lee Carroll and Jan Tober report the information of this increasingly documented and world-wide phenomenon and tell you how to identify this behavioural pattern and guide you on how you, as a parent or teacher of these children, can help them realise their amazing potential not forgetting their spiritual needs or specific health issues.

Little Soul and the Earth by Neale Donald Walsch

Once upon no time there was a Little Soul . . .

And this Little Soul wanted to understand forgiveness. Except the Little Soul didn’t just want to understand forgiveness–the Little Soul wanted to experience forgiveness and know what it felt like to forgive another. So God helped in the best of all possible ways: by putting the Little Soul in the body of Meghan, a newborn baby just beginning to explore all the magic the world had to offer.

But God never sends any Little Soul to Earth all alone. God sent along Melvin, a guardian angel, and a promise that God would always be there–even if the Little Soul forgot from time to time.

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